“I forgive you.” In the winter finale of @thegooddoctorabc (#TheGoodDoctor) last Monday, Dr. Shaun Murphy goes to visit his father in Wyoming, who is dying of pancreatic cancer. This was a very difficult journey and time for Shaun as he is faced with the opportunity to confront the man who physically, verbally, mentally and emotionally abused him as a child. His first reaction was that he didn’t want to go to his father at all. This matters later... Shaun eventually mustered up the courage and strength to visit and tell his father how he really felt about his father’s actions and behavior over the years. Full of anger, Shaun stormed out of the house and found comfort with his mentor, Dr. Glassman, and his ex-girlfriend/roommate, Lea. After a heart-to-heart conversation with his mother, Shaun decided to bury the hatchet with his father.
Shaun mustered up yet even more courage and strength to go back and tell his father that he forgave him and he didn’t want to punish his father anymore. To his utter surprise, his father CONDEMNED Shaun for being weak and blamed him for the death of his son/Shaun’s brother, Steve, and suggested that Shaun run away again. This would be the last thing that Shaun heard from his father before his father passed... What’s ironic about this situation is that Shaun’s first reaction/instinct was to not go to his dad in the first place. Shaun knew exactly what kind of man his father was and wanted to live his life without him. Even though other people encouraged Shaun to go and even though Shaun got closure on the whole situation, it was not without significant pain and revelation of truth.
People with #autism make or ought to make choices about their lives based on what’s best for themselves. I say “ought to make” because society is quick to intervene...assuming #autistic people don’t know what’s best for themselves. While this has the potential to bring about significant pain and great truth...the final decision MUST lie with the person on the spectrum...and that decision MUST...BE...RESPECTED! THIS is what will give us the freedom and the power to become our best selves and live the life that WE WANT! #MondayMotivation